Enhancing Intercourse
(Excerpt from: Sacred Sexuality–A Manual for Living Bliss by: Michael Mirdad)

When a couple chooses to expand their knowledge and repertoire of lovemaking and intercourse, they should consider learning more advanced techniques and positions. This learning can include specific uses of thrusts and movements.

NOTE: Although the techniques are briefly described, due to space limitations, most of the actual steps are not given here but are available in Michael Mirdad’s book, Sacred Sexuality: A Manual for Living Bliss.

Various Thrusts For The Male

By practicing various forms of thrusting, a man can learn what his partner enjoys the most. Also, by varying his thrusts, he can maintain his erection for a longer period, since the pauses during the alterations allow his arousal to subside-even if only slightly. The following are variations of thrusts of the lingam:

1. Back and Forth-The lingam slowly glides back and forth in the standard lovemaking fashion.
2. Churning-The lingam is held in the man’s hand and the head is churned inside the yoni.
3. Upper Rubbing-The lingam is angled to stimulate the G-spot during thrusts.
4. Lower Rubbing-The lingam is angled to stimulate the lower part of the yoni’s opening during thrusts.
5. Short Thrusts-The lingam is withdrawn only halfway and then thrust in again.
6. Long Thrusts-The lingam is withdrawn completely and then thrust inside.
7. Thrusting Hard-This can be done with short or long thrusts but is done as hard as is comfortable for both partners.
8. Pressing-The lingam carefully penetrates as far as possible and then is made to swell or enlarge slightly.

Various Thrusts For The Female

When the woman takes control of intercourse, she can experience a wonderful sense of empowerment and confidence. Although she may have to push through inhibitions, self-criticism, and perhaps even a lack
of muscle strength, the results are well worth it. When she chooses to take control, she must understand the responsibilities that go along with being in the “driver’s seat.” In other words, she must know when she is moving too quickly or too slowly because her partner can lose his erection either from too much stimulation (resulting in a premature orgasm) or from not enough stimulation (resulting in a loss of arousal). Each of the “female-superior” positions presents challenges to a woman’s coordination and strength, especially in her leg muscles. Additionally, each variation offers a unique form of stimulation for her and her lover. Therefore, she should take time to explore all positions.

1. Gliding-The woman sits on her lover’s lingam while facing him. She places her hands down on either side of his head with her breasts over his face and begins rocking her body back and forth as his lingam
slides in and out of her yoni.
2. Pelvic Rocking-The woman inserts her lover’s lingam as deeply as she likes and then begins rocking her pelvis back and forth with her clitoris rubbing against his pubic bone.
3. Pelvic Rotating-This is similar to pelvic rocking, but instead of rocking back and forth, the woman makes circles with her pelvis.
4. Backing In-The woman faces away from her lover while on her knees and backs in, sliding herself onto his lingam and then begins thrusting. This is similar to gliding but facing the opposite direction.
5. Squatting-The woman inserts her lover’s lingam as she sits on him in a squatting position. Her hands are usually placed on the floor for support, but her knees are kept off the floor. Her feet are usually flat
on the floor, and her hips are kept suspended, not sitting in a resting position. In this position, she carefully slides down his lingam and then lifts again and continues down and up.

Variations Of Intercourse

If you choose to, you can expand upon your repertoire of intercourse positions by experimenting with such variations as those found below. Most of the choices found in this set of variations are passive forms of lovemaking. These positions focus less on developing physical sensations and instead, focus on increasing your awareness of the energy between you and your lover. These are crucial options for your repertoire, as they are some of the best forms of intercourse for developing trust and intimacy.

Yab Yum (Male-Female Union)

Yab means “male principle,” and yum means “female principle.” Therefore, the yab yum position represents a union of the cosmic male and female dualities. This is a wonderful, passive position for making love or simply connecting. The yab yum position can be practiced with the couple having intercourse and closely interlocking bodies, arms, legs, mouths, and genitals. It can also be performed more passively with the couple sitting together, yet keeping their torsos slightly separated to enable them to gaze into each other’s eyes, as well as share loving comments.

Yin-Style Sex

Yin-style lovemaking is only for those partners who are prepared to spend time joining as one with no other sexual agendas. The partners will spend at least thirty minutes in a state of totally passive intercourse without physical orgasms. The focus will be on connecting and relaxing completely into the experience of each other’s energy. Yin-style intercourse challenges priorities because with this technique, love must be the primary focus, as it should be in all lovemaking. However, in most forms of intercourse, movement of the bodies and excessive stimulation often distract the participants from the awareness of love. Yin-style sex involves floating in a relaxed state of loving euphoria before, during, and after intercourse. This passive state activates the parasympathetic nervous system and is distinctly different from the usual biological forms of intense, goal-oriented sex that activate the sympathetic nervous system with its “fight or flight” response.

Intercourse with a Limp Penis

The advantages of occasionally making love with a limp penis (lingam) are numerous. First of all, it prepares both partners for moments when the male may not be able to achieve an erection. It also helps to remove the belief that the penis must be erect for the man to make love or as a symbol of successful lovemaking. Having intercourse with a limp penis allows a unique, yin-like softness to be shared between the penis and yoni. It’s especially helpful if the man’s penis is too large or uncomfortable to insert when fully erect.

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